‎It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (via thelittlesea)


Who you are

The most loving thing you can do for yourself is to let yourself be. Be what? The being that you are, of course. This is the definition of self-love that I propose: letting yourself be the being that you are

The being that you are is not something you can wrap your mind around. It is beyond anything you can think. Though you may bristle when others impose their ideas on you or put you in some narrow conceptual box, you probably don’t notice how much you do this to yourself. Who you were yesterday, last year, or in childhood, adolescence, young adulthood–none of these is who you are; they are only memories. Holding in mind a picture or concept of who you are puts you in a soul-cage that keeps you from living freely and expansively. — John Welwood, Perfect Love: Imperfect Relationships